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14 Jan 2019

Aurat Ke Liye Sone Chandi Ke Alawa Dusre Patthar Ke Zewar Pahenna

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Alhamdulillah..

Aurto ke liye sona ya chandi ki anguthi pahenne ki ijazat hai jis par Heera ya dusri keemti pathhar jade ho jaise panna (emeralds), Lal (rubies) aur Aqeeq (carnelians), ya fir agar lohe ke anguthi ho agar wo chahe, kyuki bunyadi usool ye hai ki in sab ki ijazat hai jab tak daleel na ho jisme ye kaha gaya ho ki in maise koi chiz ki ijazat nahi hai.

Lohe ki anguthi pahenna makruh nahi hai.

۩ Ibn Qudaamah r.h. kahte hai:

“Aurto ke liye unke rasm-riwaj (muashre) ke mutabik sona, chandi aur keemti pathhar pahenne ki ijazat hai, jaise churiya, paazeb, kaan ki baaliya aur anguthia, aur jo wo apne chehre, gale, baazu, pair, kaan wagaira me pahenti hai, iski bhi ijazat hai.” end quote.

Al-Mughni, 2/324.

Ye bayaan kiya gaya hai ki in chizo me israaf nahi hona chahiye.

۩ Imam Nawawi r.h. kahte hai:

“Hamare saathi kahte hai: Aurat ke liye sabhi tarah ke zewar pahenne ki ijazat hai; (lekin) iski sirf tabhi tak ijazat hai jab tak isme waazeh israaf na ho.” end quote.

Al-Majmoo’, 5/523.

Aur Allah sabse behtar janta hai.

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9 Nov 2018

Islam Me Biwiyon Ke Huqooq


Islam me jis tarah bachho ke maa-baap ke huquk hain usi tarah biwiyon ke bhi huqooq hai.

Allah farmate hai:

 وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً ۚ إِنَّ فِي ذَٰلِكَ لَآيَاتٍ لِّقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ-

Aur us ki nishaniyon mein say hai kay tumhari hi jins se biwiyan peda ki takay tum in se aaram pao us ne tumhare darmiyan mohabbat aur humdardi qayem kardi. Yaqeenan gaur-o-fikr karne walon ke liye iss mein boht si nishaniyan hai.

Surah Rum (30), ayat 21.

Jaisa ke muashre me aam hame dekhne ko milta hai ke kuch log apni biwi ko pasand nahi karte aur unhe talaaq dena chahte hain, Lekin talaaq ke baad jo biwi ko maher ka haq dena hota hai, isliye wo shauhar apni biwiyon ke saath badsulooki(zulm) kar dete hain, taaki tang aakar biwi khud hi khul'aa le le.

Aur is tarah Shauhar ko haq e maher ada nahi karna padega. Islam ne is cheez ko bhi roka hai, Jaisa ke Irshad e baari tal'a hai: 

 یٰۤاَیُّہَا الَّذِیۡنَ اٰمَنُوۡا لَا یَحِلُّ لَکُمۡ اَنۡ تَرِثُوا النِّسَآءَ کَرۡہًا ؕ وَ لَا تَعۡضُلُوۡہُنَّ لِتَذۡہَبُوۡا بِبَعۡضِ مَاۤ اٰتَیۡتُمُوۡہُنَّ  اِلَّاۤ اَنۡ یَّاۡتِیۡنَ بِفَاحِشَۃٍ مُّبَیِّنَۃٍ ۚ وَ عَاشِرُوۡہُنَّ بِالۡمَعۡرُوۡفِ ۚ فَاِنۡ کَرِہۡتُمُوۡہُنَّ فَعَسٰۤی اَنۡ تَکۡرَہُوۡا شَیۡئًا وَّ یَجۡعَلَ اللّٰہُ فِیۡہِ خَیۡرًا کَثِیۡرًا-

Aye' Eemaan walo! Tumhen halal nahi ke zabardasti aurton ko wirse me le baitho, unhe is liye rok na rakho ke jo tum ne unhe de rakha hai us mein se kuch le lo. Haan yeh aur baat hai ke woh koi khuli burayee aur be-hayaee kare. Un ke sath ache tareeqe se guzar-basar karo, agar wo tumko na-pasand ho toh ho sakta hai ki ek cheez tumko pasand na ho magar Allah ne usme tumhare liye bohut badi bhalaai rakh di ho.

Surah Nisa, (4) Ayat - 19.

Agar biwi burai aur be-hayaai par utar ayi hai tab use chora ja sakta hai. Aisa nahi hai ke khwaah-ma-khaa choti choti baton par ladaai kar ke chor diya jaye.
Jaisa ke saalan me namak zyaada pad gaya to is baat par ladaai ki, use mara aur aye din jhagda shuru kar diya, taaki tang aakar biwi khul'aa le le aur aur mujhe haq e mehar ada na karna pade.

Ek baat dhyan rakhein ke duniya me koi bhi insan kamil (perfect) nahi hai. Maa-baap, achhe rishto ke intezaar me bachho ki umar guzaar dete hain, aur fir baad me kahte hain hame kisi bhi qism ka ladka mil jaye, ham apni beti ki shaadi uske saath kar denge.
Aur isi tarah muqammal (perfect) ladki ki talaash me ladke ke bhi umar nikal jati hai.

Duniya ke har shaks me koi na koi khaami zaroor maujood hai, is ko is khaami ke saath hi qubool karna hoga. Hatta ke Imaam e qainaat ﷺ ki biwiyon, momino ke maao se bhi baaz muqaamat par chand chize sahih nahi hui jiski wajah se Allah paak ne unko samjhaya, Allah farmate hai:

۩ 'Aur yaad karo jab Nabi ne apni baaz aurto se ek poshida baat kahi, pas jab unhone us baat ki khabar kardi aur Allah ne apne Nabi ko us par aagaah kar diya, toh Nabi ne thodi si baat to bataadi aur thodi si taal gaye, fir jab Nabi ne apni us biwi ko ye baat batayi toh wo kahne lagi, iski khabar Aap ko kis ne di, kaha sab jaanne waale, puri khabar rakhne waale Allah ne mujhe ye batlaya hai.

(Aye Nabi ﷺ ki dono biwiyo!) Agar tum dono Allah ke saamne tauba karlo (to bahut behtar hai) yaqinan tumhare dil jhuk pade hai aur agar tum Nabi ke khilaaf ek dusre ki madad karogi, pas yaqinan us ka kaarsaaz Allah hai aur Jibraeel hai aur nek ahle eemaan aur in ke alaawa farishte bhi madad karne waale hai.'

Surah Tahrim (66), Ayat- 3-4.

Apni biwiyon ke saath husn e sulook karo na ke chidchida-pan mahsoos karo. Mumkin hai koi burai tumhare andar bhi ho aur wo tumhari biwi me maujood na ho aur Allah tal'a isi me se khair nikaal de kyunki Allah paak farmata hai:           

۩ 'Tum par jihad farz kiya gaya goh woh tumhe dushwar maloom ho, Mumkin hai Tum kisi cheez ko buri jano aur wohi tumhare liye bhali ho aur yeh bhi mumkin hai ke tum kisi cheez ko achi samjho halanke woh tumhare liye buri ho. Allah janta hai jabki tum nahi jante.'

Surah Baqara (2), Ayat - 216.

Buniyaadi Taur par ye ayat jihaad ke mutallik hai magar usooli taur par duniya ke tamaam muaamlaat ke liye hai.

Aur irshad e rabbul aalameen hai :- 

۩ 'Aur agar tum ek biwi ki jagah dusri biwi laana hi chaho aur tum unme se kisi ek ko bohut sa maal de chuke ho toh usme se kuch wapis na lo, kya tum us par jhuta ilzam laga kar aur khula zulm karke wapas loge.

Surah Nisa (4), Ayat - 20

Ya'ni talaaq dene ke baad apni biwi se koi maal na mango, aur na hi ehsaan jataao, aisa hargiz na karna.

۩ Abu Hurairah r.a. se riwayat hai ki RasoolAllah ﷺ ne farmaya, "Sabse kamil momin wo hai jiske akhlaq sabse behtar ho aur tum me sabse behtar wo hai jo apni biwiyo ke liye behtar ho."

Jamia Tirmizi, hadees- 1162. Ise Darussalaam ne hasan karaar diya hai.

۩ Momino ki Maa Ayesha r.a. farmati hai ke mai ek safar me Nabi ﷺ ke saath thi. Maine Aap ﷺ se daud (race) ka muqabla kiya, toh mai jeet gayi, fir jab mera badan bhaari ho gaya to maine Aap ﷺ se (dobara) muqabla kiya, toh Aap ﷺ jeet gaye, is par Aap ﷺ ne farmaya 'Ye Jeet us Jeet ke badle hai'.

Sunan Abu Dawood, kitab al jihad, hadith - 2578. (Sahih)

Yaa'ni shauhar aur biwi me is kadar  hasi-mazaak ho sakta hai.

Lekin hamare sub continent ke culture me jab kisi ki shaadi hone lagti hai to badi umar ke log kahte hai ke pahle din hi biwi ko lagaam me rakho. Biwiya hamari gulaam nahi hoti ki use lagaam me rakha jaye balki wo hamari shareek e hayaat hoti hai.

Biwiyon ke saath husn e sulook karna, ahtraam ke saath pesh aana, muhabbat karna, ye sab cheeze sawaab me dakhil hai.

۩ Rasool ﷺ ne farmaya, "Jo bhi tum Allah ki raah me kharch karo use sadaqah me shumaar kiya jayega hatta ke us luqme kor jo tum apni biwi ke muh me rakhoge."

Sahih al bukhari, kitab al wasaaya, hadith - 2742.

۩ Aur Nabi ﷺ ne Aurto ko sheeshe ke bartan ke maanind kaha hai.

Sahih al Bukhari, kitab al adab, hadith - 6161, 6202.

Is farman se ye malum padta hai ki aurte nazuk hoti hai aur jaldi jazbaati ho jati hai to isliye unke jazbaat ka khyal rakh kar unse pesh aya jaye taaki unhe takleef na ho. Aur ye baat hamesha yaad rakhe ki izzat kamaai jati hai. Toh biwi se badtameezi karna ya oonchi awaz se baat karne se apko izzat nahi mil sakti, milegi bhi to wo dekhawi izzat hogi balki uski izzat ap acche akhlaq, shafkat aur muhabbat se aasni se paa sakte hai.

۩ Abu Hurairah r.a. riwayat karte hai ki RasoolAllah ﷺ ne farmaya , "Aurat ki misaal ek pasli ki hai, agar tum use sidha karna chahoge toh tod doge aur agar us se faidah hasil karna chahte ho toh uski tedh (crookedness) ke sath hi fayda hasil karo."

Sahih al Bukhari, kitab an Nikah, hadith - 5184.

Yaha seedha karne se muraad ye nahi hai ke use shariyat ke ahkaam me nahi chalana hai aur har cheez ki aazadi deni hai balki isse muraad ye hai ke aurto ki ba'az adato ko badalne se gurez karo, lekin agar uski adatein shariyat ke khilaf hain to usko sahih karne ki koshish karna mard ki zimmedari hai.

Agar koi masla hai to use mil kar hal karne ki koshish karni chaiye. Koshish karni chahiye ke muamlat ko samajhdaari aur muhabbat se deal kiya jaye aur talaaq tak naubat hi na aye.

۩ Jabir riwayat karte hai ki Nabi e kareem ﷺ ne farmaya,  "Iblees apna takht paniyo par bichaata hai fir wo apne lashkar rawana karta hai; us (shaitan) ke sabse zyada kareeb wo hota hai jo sabse bada fitna daalta hai. Inme se ek akar kahta hai maine falan-falan kaam kiye hain, wo (shaitaan) kahta hai tumne kuch nahi kiya, fir unme se ek aakar kahta hai maine us shaqs ko (jiske saath wo tha) us waqt tak nahi chhora yahan tak ke shauhar aur uski biwi ke darmiyaan judai ki beech daal di. Shaitan uske kareeb jata hai aur gale lagata hai aur kahta hai tumne achha kiya.

Sahih Muslim, book of characteristics of the day of judgment, paradise, and hell, hadith - 7106.

Lihaaza Miya-Biwi ke jhagda ko jald as jald khatm karna chahiye. Aur ye hamesha yaad rakhe ki wo sirf apki biwi nahi hai, wo kisi ki beti bhi hai aur wo kisi ki maa bhi hai.

Aur akhir me Allah ﷻ ke ek ahkaam ke sath mai apni baat ko muqammal karna chahunga. Allah ﷻ farmate hai,

“Woh tumhara libas hain aur tum un ke libas ho.”

Surah baqarah (2), ayat- 187.

Allah se dua hai ki wo hame amal ki taufeek ata kare. aameen.

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30 Jul 2018

Kya Nakhuno Par Nail Polish Hone Ki Surat Me Wuzu Sahih Hoga Ya Nahi ?

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Quran e hakeem me wuzu ke mutalliq irshad e baari taala hai:

" يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا إِذَا قُمْتُمْ إِلَى الصَّلَاةِ فَاغْسِلُوا وُجُوهَكُمْ وَأَيْدِيَكُمْ "

"Aye Eemaan walo! Jab tum Iqamat e salaat ka iradah karo to apne chehro aur hatho ko dho lo..."

Surah Maida, ayat - 6.

۩ Abdullah bin Amr r.a. se marwi hai ke Allah ke Nabi ﷺ ek safar mein hum se peeche the. Aap ﷺ ne hame is haalat me paaya ke namaz ka waqt tha aur hum wuzu kar rahe the, hum apne paaon par bas gila hath fer rahe the (aur ache se use dho nahi rahe) toh Aap ﷺ ne buland aawaz se  do ya teen martaba kaha,

"Apne Aediyo ko aag se bachao"

Sahih al Bukhari, Kitab al Ilm, hadith- 60.

۩ Isi tarah Sahih al Bukhari, kitab al wuzu, wuzu me aediya dhone ke baab me Ibn Seereen (Tabaeen r.h.) ke baarey me hai ke "Woh jab wuzu karte to anguthi wali jagah ko dhote the." Ye isi liye tha ke ungliya khushk na rah jaye. Kyunki wuzu me jo aaza dhoye jate hai un ka khushk rah jana sahih nahi.

۩ Imam Shafi farmate hai,

وإن كان عليه عِلْكٌ ، أو شيء ثخين ، فيمنع الماء أن يصل إلى الجلد : لم يُجْزِهِ وضوءُهُ ذلك العضوَ حتى يُزيلَ عنه ذلك ، أو يُزيلَ منه ما يعلم أن الماء قد ماسَّ معه الجلدَ كُلَّه ، لا حائل دونه" انتهى

"Agar uske (wuzu karne wale hisse ke khaal par) koi goond (glue) ya koi moti chiz hai jo pani ko khaal tak pahunchne se rokti hai, (toh) uska us hisse ko wuzu ke liye dhona sahih nahi jab tak ke wo us (chiz) ko hata na de ya fir itna na hata de jab tak use pata na chal jaye ki paani aur khaal ke bich koi rukawat nahi hai." End quote.

Al-Umm (1/44).

۩ Imam Nawawi farmate hai,

إذا كان على بعض أعضائه شمع ، أو عجين ، أو حنَّاء ، وأشباه ذلك ، فمنع وصول الماء إلى شيء من العضو : لم تصح طهارته ، سواء كثر ذلك أم قل ، ولو بقي على اليد وغيرها أثر الحناء ولونه دون عينه أو أثر دهن مائع بحيث يمس الماء بشرة العضو ويجري عليها لكن لا يثبت : صحت طهارته" انتهى

"Agar uski ungli par mo'm (wax), aanta (dough), mehndi ya isi tarha ka kuch ho jo pani ko (us wuzu karne wale) kisi bhi hisse tak pahonchne se rokti hai fir uski taharat durust nahi hai chahe uski miqdaar zyada ho ya thodi. (Lekin) Agar Mehndi ka nishan ya uska rang hatho me baaki rahta hai, bina koi thos (solid) chiz baaki rahe, ya kahi aur par, ya liquid grease ke nishan, jaha ungli par pani bah sakta ho aur rukawat na ho, fir uski taharat durust hai." End quote.

Al-Majmoo’ (1/529). 

۩ Shaykh Saleh al Munajjid kahte hai,

"Agar naakhoon polish chahe kisi bhi naam se ho aur kisi bhi jagah se bani ho sirf rang hai, uski asal naakhun par nahi banti, yani naakhun tak pani sarayat kar sakta hai (yaani pahonch sakta hai), aur uska naakhun par chilka sa nahi banta to aisi haalat mein wudu durust hoga, use hatana zaroori nahi .

Aur agar polish ki naakhun par teh ban jati hai, aur uske bina par naakhun tak pani nahi pahonchta to fir wudu se pahle use utaarna zaroori hai, kyunki wuzu durust hone ke liye ye shart hai ke wudu wale saare hisse (part) par pani puhanche, aur darmiyan me koi rukawat na ho.

Chunanche agar sirf nami naakhun tak pahunchti hai to (bhi) ye wuzu ke liye kaafi nahi hai, kyunke wuzu ke liye aaza par pani behna shart hai, sirf nami pohanchna kaafi nahi hai, aise hi thodi si jagah ko bhi jaan bujh kar khushk rakhna jaiz nahi hai."


To khulasa ye hua ki Agar ap wo nail polish istemal karti hai jisse pani nakhun tak pahochta hai to isme koi harj nahi. Lekin agar ap wo nail polish istemal karti hai jisse wuzu ke dauran pani apke nakhuno tak na poche to fir behtar raaye yahi hai ki nail polish utaar liya jaye. Aur agar apko ye ilm nahi hai ki jo nail polish ap istemal karti hai usme nakhun tak paani pohchta hai ya nahi to fir ehtiyat isi me hai ki ap nail polish ko utaar kar wuzu kare.

Aur wuzu karne ke baad nail polish lagane me koi harj nahi hai aur nail polish ko laga kar namaz padhne me bhi koi harj nahi hai bashart hai ki upar bayan karda tarike se wuzu kiya ho.

Aur Allah sabse behtar janta hai
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2 Jul 2018

Dewar Bhi Na-Mahram Hai


Allah pak farmate hai,

Aur Apni Zeenat Zaahir Na Karo Siwaye Is Ke Jo Zahir Hai, Aur Apne Girebanon Par Apni Odhni (Shawl, Dupatta) Daaley Rakhen, Aur Apni Zaib o aaraish Ko Kisi Ke Samne Zahir Na Karo Siwaye, Apne Khawindo Ke Ya, Apne Waalid Ke Ya Apne Sasur Ke Ya Apne Ladko Ke Ya, Apne Khawind Ke Ladko Ke Ya, Apne Bhaiyon Ke Ya, Apne Bhatijon Ke Ya, Apne Bhanjon Ke Ya Apne Mel Jol Ki Aurto Ke Ya Ghulamon Ke Ya Aisey Naukar Chaakar Mardo Se Jo Shehwat Wale Na Hon, Ya Aisey Bachho Ke Jo Aurto Ke Parde Ki Baato Se Mutla' (ilm wale) Nahi ... 

Surah Noor, Ayat-31.

Dewar yaani Shauhar ka bhai bhi na-mahram hota hai. Aur isliye unse bhi parde ka ehtemam karna chahiye.

Uqba bin Amir riwayat karte hai ki Rasool ﷺ ne Irshad Farmaya:

“(Na Mahram) Aurton ke paas jane se bacho!” Ek Ansari sahabi farmane lage: Ya RasoolAllah! Khawind ke bhaiyyon (dewar) se mutalliq Aap  ka kya hukm hai? RasoolAllah ﷺ ne irshad Farmaya: "Khawind ke bhai to Maut ki tarha hai."

Sahih Al Muslim, Hadith 5674.

 Yaani Dewar se pardah karne ka bahut ehtemam karna chahiye.

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13 Apr 2018

Kya Haiz Me Pahne Gaye Kapde Napak Hote Hai ?


Alhamdulillah..

Ek khwateen jiske haiz khatam ho gaye hai, agar wo wahi kapde pahne jo usne haiz ki halat me pahne the to isme koi burai nahi hai, jab tak ke wo kapde saaf aur paak ho aur usme haiz ka koi khoon na laga ho.

Lekin agar haiz ka koi khoon kapdo ke kisi hisse me lage ho, to us hisse ko dhona zaruri hai us kapde me namaz padhne se pahle.

Asma r.a. riwayat karti hai ke Ek Aurat ne Rasool ﷺ ki khidmat me haazir ho kar arz kiya ke hum me se kisi Aurat ke kapdo mein haiz aa jaye (to) woh kya kare? Aap ﷺ ne farmaya ke use (khoon ke daag ko) khurcho (scrach it), fir pani se ragdo aur pani se dho daalo aur isi kapdo me namaz padh lo.

Narrated by al-Bukhari (227) and Muslim (291). 

Toh RasoolAllah ﷺ ne kapdo ko paak karne ka hukm diya hai Namaz padhne se pahle.

Aur Allah sabse behtar janta hai.

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23 Mar 2018

Aurat Ka Kin Logo Se Parda Na Karna Jaiz Hai ?


Alhamdulillah 

Aurat Apne Mahram Mardon Se Parda Nahi Karegi.

Aur Aurat ka Mahram woh hai, jis se is ka Nikah qaraabat daari (close blood relationship) ki wajah se hamesha ke liye haraam ho (maslan baap, dada aur isse bhi upar wale, beta pota aur in ki nasal, chacha, mamu, bhai, bhatija, bhanja) ya fir raza'at (breast-feeding) ke sabab se nikah haraam ho. [maslan razaai bhai, aur razaai baap) ya fir mushahirat (shadi) ki wajah se nikah haraam ho jaye (maslan walidah ka khawind, sasur, agarchey is se bhi upar wali nasal ke ho aur khawind ka beta aur is ki nasal)].

Zail mein (niche) hum yeh mauzu bil tafseel pesh karte hain :

۞ Nasbi Mahram :

Nasbi taur par Aurat ke mehram ki tafseel ka bayan Surah Al-Noor ki niche di hui Ayat me bayan hai :

Farmaan e Baari ta'ala hai :

Aur Apni Zeenat Zaahir Na Karo Siwaye Is Ke Jo Zahir Hai, Aur Apne Girebanon Par Apni Odhni (Shawl, Dupatta) Daaley Rakhen, Aur Apni Zaib o aaraish Ko Kisi Ke Samne Zahir Na Karo Siwaye Apne Khawindo Ke Ya Apne Waalid Ke Ya Apne Sasur Ke Ya Apne Ladko Ke Ya Apne Khawind Ke Ladko Ke Ya Apne Bhaiyon Ke Ya Apne Bhatijon Ke Ya Apne Bhanjon Ke Ya Apne Mel Jol Ki Aurto Ke Ya Ghulamon Ke Ya Aisey Naukar Chaakar Mardo Se Jo Shehwat Wale Na Hon, Ya Aisey Bachho Ke Jo Aurto Ke Parde Ki Baato Se Mutla' (ilm wale) Nahi ... 

Surah Noor, Ayat-31. 

Mufassireen Hazraat (Commentators of Quran) ka kahna hai ke, Nasb (ties of blood) ki bina par Aurat ke liye jo mahram hain is ki sarahat is Ayat me bayan hui hai, woh niche hain :

۩1. Aaba wa ajdad (forefathers) :

Yaani Aurat ke walidain ke aaba wa ajdad aur upar ki nasal masalan waalid, dada, nana aur rahi baat unke shauhar ke baad dada ki to wo sasurali mahram me shamil hai jisko aage bayan kiya jayega.

۩2. Beto (son) :

Yani Aurton ke bete jis mein bete, pote, aur is tarhan naati yani beti ke bete aur in ki nasal, aur Ayat e kareema mein jo ( khawind ke beton ) ka zikar hai woh khawind ki doosri biwi ke bete hain jo ke mahram mein shamil hai, aur isi tarhan sasur bhi mahram masahrat (mahram by marriage) mein shaamil hai, na ke mehram nasbi (mahram by blood) me. Hum ise bhi aage chal kar bayaan  karenge.

۩3. Aurat ka bhai :

Chahe woh saga bhai ho ya fir sautela bhai ho, chahe sirf waalid ki taraf se ho ya fir sirf walida ki taraf se ho, sabhi isme shamil hai. 

۩4. Bhanje aur Bhatije yani Bhai aur Bahan ke bete aur in ki naslen .

۩5. Chacha aur Mamu :

Yeh dono bhi Nasbi Mahram mai se hain. In ka aayat mein zikar nahi hai kyuki ye dono maa-baap ke tarha samjhe jate hai, aur logo mein bhi walidain ki jagah par shumaar hote hain, aur baaz auqaat chacha ko bhi walid kah diya jata hai, jaisa ke Allah ta'ala ka farmaan hai :

"Kya Tum Yaqoob (Alaihe Salam) Ki Mout Ke Waqt Moujood The? Jab Unhone Apni Aulaad Ko Kaha Ke Mere Baad Tum Kis Ki Ibadat Karogey ? To Sab Ne Jawab Diya Ke Aap Ke Mabood Ki Aur Aap Ke Walid Ibrahim, Ishhaaq aur Ismail Ke Mabood Ki, Jo Mabood Ek Hi Hai Aur Ham Isi Ke Farmanbardar Rahenge."

Surah Baqarah, Ayat-13.

Jab ki Ismail a.s. Yaqoob a.s. ke beto ke Chacha the.

Tafseer al-Raazi, 23/206; Tafseer al-Qurtubi, 12/232, 233; Tafseer al-Aaloosi, 18/143; Fath al-Bayaan fi Maqaasid al-Qur’aan by Siddeeq Hasan Khan, 6/352.

۞ Razaat (Breastfeeding) Ki Bina Par Mahram :

Aurat ke liye razaat ki wajah se bhi mahram ban jate hain, Tafseer Al Aloosi me hai :

"Jis tarha nasbi mahram ke samne Aurat ke liye parda na karna mubah hai isi tarhan razaat ki wajah se mahram ban'nae wale shakhs ke samnay bhi is ke liye parda na karna mubah hai. Is tarha Aurat ke liye, is ke razaai beto ya razaai walid se bhi parda na karna jaiz hai."

Tafseer al-Aaloosi. 18/143.

Is liye ke razaat ki wajah se Mahram hona bhi nasbi mahram ki tarhan hi hai jo ke hamesha ke liye Nikah haraam kar deta hai.

Imaam al-Jassaas r.h. ne is Ayat ki tafseer karte hue isi taraf ishara karte hue kaha hai,  "Jab Allah ta'ala ne walid ke sath un mahram ka zikar kiya jin se un ka Nikah hamesha haraam hai, jo ke is par dalalat karti hai ke jo is tarha ki hurmat wala hoga is ka hukum bhi unhi hukum ke barabar hai, maslan aurat ki maa, aur razaai mahram wagaira".

Ahkaam al-Qur’aan by al-Jassaas, 3/317 .

Aur Sunnat e Nabawi ﷺ mein bhi is ki daleel milti hai :

Nabi ﷺ ka farmaan hai, "Razaat bhi Wahi haraam karti hai jo Nasab karta hai."

To is ka matlab ye hua ke Jis tarha aurat ke nasbi mahram honge isi tarha razaat ke sabab se bhi mahram honge. Sahih al Bukhari mein niche di hui hadees warid hai :

Ammi Aisha r.a. bayan karti hain ke, Parda ka hukm nazil hone ke baad Abu Qu’ayss ke bhai Aflah jo ki Ap ke razaai chacha the, Aaye aur andar aane ki ijazat talab ki, toh maine ijazat dene se inkaar kar diya, aur jab Rasool e Akram ﷺ  ghar tashreef laaye to maine jo kuch kiya tha Ap ﷺ ko bataya, toh Nabi e Kareem ﷺ ne hukum diya ke mai unhe andar aane ki ijazat de doon.

Sahih al-Bukhaari bi Sharh al-‘Asqalaani, 9/150.

Imam Muslim r.h. ne bhi is hadees ko riwaayat kiya hai jis ke alfaaz ye hain :

Urwah r.a. bayan karte hain ke Ammi Aisha r.a. ne inhe bataya ke, un ke razaai chacha jin ka naam Aflah tha, unhone andar aane ki ijazat talab ki, to maine unhe ijazat na di, aur unse parda kar liya. Fir iski khabar Allah ke Rasool ﷺ ko di toh Aap ﷺ ne unse farmaya, Un se parda na karo, is liye ke razaat se wo sabhi rishte (Nikah) haraam ho jate hai jo nasab se haraam hote hai..

Saheeh Muslim bi Sharh al-Nawawi, 10/22.

Aurat ke razaai mahram bhi uske nasbi mahram ki tarhan hi hain :

Fuqaha e karaam ne jo kuch Quran Majeed aur Sunnat e Nabwi ﷺ se saabit hai us par amal karte hue is baat ki sarahat ki hai ke aurat ke razaai mahram bhi is ke nasbi mahram ki tarha hi hai, lihaza is ke liye razaai mahram ke samne zeenat ki cheeze zahir karna jaiz hain jis tarha ke nasbi  mahram ke samney karna jaiz hai, aur in ke liye bhi aurat ke badan ki woh jagah dekhni halal hain jo nasbi mahram ke liye dekhni halal hain.

۞ Sasurali Rishte Ki Wajah Se Mahram : (Yani Nikah Ki Wajah Se)

Aurat ke liye sasurali rishte ke wajah se mahram woh log hai jin par usse Nikah karna hamesha ke liye haraam hai, jaise, waalid ki biwi, betay ki biwi, saas yani biwi ki walida. 

Sharh al-Muntahaa, 3/7

To is tarha walid ki biwi ke liye mahram woh beta hoga jo us ki doosri biwi se ho, aur bahu yani beta ki biwi ke liye shauhar ka baap yani sasur mahram hoga, aur saas yani biwi ki maa ke liye khawind yani damaad mahram hoga .

Allah ajjawazal ne Surah Al Noor ki Ayat mein zikr karte hue farmaya hai :

Aur Apni Zeenat Zaahir Na Karo Siwaye Is Ke Jo Zahir Hai, Aur Apne Girebanon Par Apni Odhni (Shawl, Dupatta) Daaley Rakhen, Aur Apni Zaib o aaraish Ko Kisi Ke Samne Zahir Na Karo Siwaye, Apne Khawindo Ke Ya, Apne Waalid Ke Ya Apne Sasur Ke Ya Apne Ladko Ke Ya, Apne Khawind Ke Ladko Ke Ya, Apne Bhaiyon Ke Ya, Apne Bhatijon Ke Ya, Apne Bhanjon Ke Ya Apne Mel Jol Ki Aurto Ke Ya Ghulamon Ke Ya Aisey Naukar Chaakar Mardo Se Jo Shehwat Wale Na Hon, Ya Aisey Bachho Ke Jo Aurto Ke Parde Ki Baato Se Mutla' (ilm wale) Nahi ... 

Surah Noor, Ayat-31. 

To is me sasur, aur khawind  ke beta aurat ke liye sasurali rishte ki wajah se mahram hai, aur Allah ta'ala ne inhen un ke bapon aur beton ke sath zikr kiya hai aur unhe hukum me bhi barabar qarar diya hai, ke un se parda na karna jayz hai.

Al-Mughni, 6/555.
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8 Jan 2018

Aurto Ka Make-up Karna


Bunyadi Usool ye hai ki har tarah ka banao-singar karna jayz hai jab tak ke wo shariat ke kisi hukm se na takraati ho. Aur agar khud ko apne shauhar ke samne khubsurat banane ki niyat se make-up kiya jaye to ye mustahab amal hai. Toh Make-up ya cosmetics ka use karne ki ijazat di hai shariyat na bas niche di hui baat ka khyal rakhe:

۝ Ara'ish (beautification) na-mehram ke liye nahi hona chaiye kyuki Quran aur sunnat ke mutabik usool ye hai ki use na-mehram ke samne pure badan ko dhakna hai siwae jin chizo ko dikhane ki ijazat hai.

۝ Jis chiz se wo cosmetic bani ho wo murdaar ka gosht (ya Fat), Najis (Impure) aur Haraam chiz se nahi honi chahiye.

۝ Jis chiz se cosmetic bani ho wo jism ke liye nuksan-dayak nahi honi chahiye kyuki Islam is baat ki ijazat nahi deta ki khud ke jism ko nuksan pohchaya jaye.

۝ Cosmetic ka asar Aarzi (Temporary) hona chahiye, mustaqil (permanent) nahi hona chahiye. Cosmetic ka istemal Allah ki qudrat ko badalne ke liye nahi hona chahiye. 

Cosmetic-surgery ka masala alag hai. Agar ye isliye kiya ja raha hai taaki jism ki khubsurti jo kisi wajah se chali gayi ho wo wapis usi haal me aajaye to iski ijazat hai lekin agar ye isliye kiya ja raha ho ki aur mazeed khubsurti aa jaye jab ki uske jisme me koi abnormalities nahi thi to ye haraam hai. Iska matlab ki jism ko normal karna ke liye cosmetic surgery ki ijazat hai lekin jo jism pahle se normal ho uske liye cosmetic surgery ki ijazat nahi hai jiska maksad khubsurti me izafa karna hota hai. Misaal ke taur par Daanto me braces lagane ki ijazat shariyat se milti hai kyuki iska maqsad Daanto ko Aam (Normal) shape me laana hota hai.

In chizo ko nazar me rakh kar make-up karne me koi harj nahi hai.

Aur Allah sab se behtar janta hai.

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7 Jan 2018

Make-up Kar Ke Namaz Ada Karna

Kya Wuzu Karne Ke Baad Banao Singhaar Aur Make Up Kar Ke Ada Ki Gayi Namaz Motabar Hai?
Alhamdulillah,

Agar Aurat wuzu kar ke chehre ka banao singhaar aur make up kar le, ya ise chu le to yeh ise koi zard aur nuqsan nahi dega, aur na hi is ke wuzu aur namaz par asar andaz hoga, jab tak wo najis (impure) na ho; kyuki badan aur libas ki taharat wa paakizgi namaz sahih hone ke liye shart hai.

Aur yeh maloom hona zaruri hai ke aurat ke liye ajnabi aur gair-mahram ke samne makeup aur banao singhaar karna jayaz nahi, kyu ke aurat ko apna chehra chhipane ka hukum hai, aur is liye bhi ke makeup karna khoobsurati wa zeenat aur fitna mein shaamil hota hai, aur agar aurat aisa kar ke namaz ada kar le to isse namaz ka poora ajar wa sawab hasil hoga lekin ise be-pardagi ka gunah hoga.

Mustaqil Fatwa Committee ke Fatwe mein darj hai: "Aurat ke liye chehre ka makeup aur banao singhaar karne, aur surma lagane, aur sir ke balon ki kanghi wagaira karne mein koi harj nahi, lekin is mein kuffaar aurton ke saath mushabihat na ho, aur yeh shart bhi hai ke aurat gair mahram mardo se apna chehra bhi chhipaye". End quote.

Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah (17/129).

Aur Fatwe mein yeh bhi darj hai: "Surma istemal karna mashru' (permitted, ijazat)  hai, lekin aurat ke liye jayaz nahi ke wo apni zeenat aur banao singhaar mein se chahe wo surma ho ya kuch aur apne Khawind (hubby) aur Mahram ke ilawa kisi aur ke samne zahir kare; kyu ke Allaah ‎ﷻ ka farman hai:

...Aur wo apni zeenat zahir na karein, magar apne khawind ke samne..."

[al-Noor 24:31] 

End quote.

Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah (17/128).
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6 Jan 2018

Mani, Mazi Aur Ratubat Me Fark Aur Iske Ahkaam

Alhamdulillah..

Aurat ke jism se kharij hone wala madah basa auqat mani ya mazi hota hai aur basa auqat mamool ki ratoobat hoti hai. In teeno ke alag alag ahkam hain aur in ki munfarid alamat bhi hain.

۞ Mani Ki Alamat Ye Hain:

۩1. Aurat ki mani patli aur peeli hoti hai, aurat ki mani ka farq Nabi ﷺ se sabit hai. Aap ﷺ ka farman hai, "Mard ki mani gaadhi aur safed hoti hai jab ke aurat ki mani patli or peeli hoti hain.

Sahih Muslim, Hadith-311.

Ta'ham aisa mumkin hai ke kuch khawateen ki mani safeed ho.

۩2. Is ki boo gundhe hue aate ki tarha hoti hai.

۩3.  Mani lazzat (pleasure) ke sath kharij hoti hai aur is ke kharij hone ke baad jism dheela pad jata hai.

Mani ke liye in teeno alamat ka baik waqt jama hona lazmi nahi hai, balke ek alamat bhi kafi hai. Jaise ke Imam Nawawi ne al-Majmoo’ (2/141) mein kaha hai.

۞ Jab ke Mazi ye hai ke Mazi safed yani shafaf aur les-daar pani hota hai jo ke shahawat ya shahwani takhilat ke waqt kharij hota hai. Is ke kharij hone se lazzat mehsus nahi hoti hai aur naa hi is ke baad jism me dheela pan paida hota hai..

۞ Jab ke Ratoobat ye hai ke:

Ye rahem se nikalne wala shafaf qatre hote hain, basa auqat aurat ko in ke kharij hone ka ahsas tak nahi hota, nez har khwatoon ki surat e haal digar khawateen se aalag hoti hai.

Mani, Mazi or Ratoobat ke sharai hukm ke bare mein ye hai ke :-

۞ Mani Tahir hoti hai ise kapde se dhona wajib nahi hota taham is ke nikalne ke baad ghusl karna wajib ho jata hai, chahe ye mani neend ki halat mein kharij ho ya bedari ki halat mein, Is ka sabab chahe jama' ho ya ehtelam ya koi aur sabab.

۞ Mazi Najis hoti hai jism ke jis hisse par lag jaye to ise dhona wajib hota hai, albatta kapde ke jis hisse par mazi lag jaye to is ko pak karne ke liye paani ke chinte maarna kafi hai. Mazi kharij hone se wuzu toot jata hai nez is ke kharij hone se ghusl wajib nahi hota.

۞ Jab ke Ratoobat Tahir hoti hai ise dhona ya kapdon par lagi ho to kapdo ko dhona zaroori nahi hai, is se wuzu tut jata hai albatta agar kisi khwatoon ki ratoobat tasalsul ke sath kharij hoti hai to wo har namaz ke liye namaz ka waqt shuru hone par wuzu kar le is ke bad kharij hone wali ratoobat se is ke wuzu par koi asar nahi padega.

Wallahu A'alam.
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Kaun Se Baal Utarne Jaiz Hai Aur Kaunse Utarne Jaiz Nahi ?

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Sawaal- Mujhe ilm hai ke eyebrow ke baal utarne, aur chehre ke baal nochne haraam hai, lekin mujhe ilm hai ke honton ke uper wale baal utarne mumkin hain lekin jo baal sar aur eyebrow ke darmiyan ho un ka hukm kya hai?

Alhamdulillah,

Awwal: Baal utarne ke aitebar se ulema ne balon ko 3 qismo me taqseem kiya hai:

۩ Pahli Qism:


Wo baal jin ke utarne aur katne ka hukm diya gaya hai.  Aur wo ye baal hain jinhe fitrati sunnat kaha jata hai. 
Misaal ke tour par zer e naaf, aur muncho ke baal, aur baglon ke baal, aur is me Hajj aur Umrah ke mauqe par sar ke baal chote karana aur sar mundwana bhi dakhil hota hai.

Is ki daleel Ayesha r.a. ki darj e zail hadees hai wo bayan karti hain ke Rasool ﷺ ne farmya, "10 chizen fitrat me se hain; Munchen katna, Dadhi badhana, miswak karna, naak me pani chadhana, nakhun katna, unglion ke poore (joints) dhona, baglon ke baal ukhedna, zer e naaf baal mundwana, aur pani se istanja karna."

Zakariyya kahte hai, Mus'ab ne kaha: "Mai (10) daswee cheez bhul gaya hoon magar wo kulli karna ho sakta hai."

Narrated by Muslim, Hadith-502.

۩ Dusri Qism:


Wo baal jin ko utarne ki hurmat (manahi) aati hai. Is me eyebrow ke baal utarne shamil hain, aur is fail ko nams ka naam diya jata hai, aur is tarah darhi ke baal.

Is ki daleel darj e zail hadees hai:

Abdullah bin Mas'ood r.a. bayan karte hain mai ne Rasool kareem ﷺ ko farmate hue suna:

"Allah ta'ala godne aur gudwane walion, aur eyebrows ke baal ukhedne walion, aur khoobsurti ke liye dant ragad kar bareek karne walion, Allah ki paida karda surat me tabdeeli karne walion par laanat farmayi."

Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5931; Sahih Muslim, 2125.

Aur Abdullah bin Umar r.a. bayan karte hain mai ne Rasool ﷺ ko farmate hue suna:

"Mushriko ki mukhalifat karo, dhadhion ko badhao aur munchen past karo."

Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5892; Muslim, 259.

Imam Nawawi r.h. kahte hain:

"Al Naamisah: Wo aurat hai jo chehre ke baal utare. Aur
 Al-Mutanammisah:  Wo aurat hai jo apne chehre ke baal utarwaye.
Aur ye fa'il haraam hai, lekin agar aurat ko dadhi ya munchen aa'jaen to use utarna haram nahi, balke hamare nazdeek wo mustahab hai."

Sharh al-Nawawi li Saheeh Muslim, 14/106 .

Teesri Qism:


Wo baal jin se shariyat khamosh hai, in ke mutalliq na to utarne ka hukm hai, aur na hi inhe baqi rakhne ka wajub,
Maslan pindlion aur hatho ke baal, aur rukhsaron (Gaal, cheeks) aur peshani per ugne wale baal.

To in baalon ke mutaliq ulema e karam ka ikhtilaf hai:

Kuch ulema kahte hai ke inhe utarna jaiz nahi,  Kyun ke inhe utarne me Allah ta'ala ki paida karda surat me tabdeeli hai.
Jaisa ke Allah ne shaitan ki baat ko naqal karte hue farmya: "Aur mai yaqeenan inhe Allah ki paida karda suraton me tabdeeli ka hukm dunga."
[al-Nisa’ 4:119 – interpretation of the meaning] 

Aur kuch ulema ka kahna hai (aur ye Raaye mujhe behtar lagti hai Deen ke Usool ki roshni me) ki:
Ye baal in me shamil hain jis per shariyat khamosh hai, aur us ka jayez wala hukm hai aur wo inhe baqi rahne ya utarne ka jawaz hai,  Kyun ke jis se kitaab o sunnat khamosh ho wo muaf karda hai.

Mustaqil Fatwa Committee ke ulema e karaam ne yahi Qaul iqhtiyar kiya hai aur isi tarah Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen ne bhi yahi Qaul iqhtiyar kia hai.
See: Fataawa al-Mar’ah al-Muslimah, 3/879.

Mustaqil Fatwa Committee ke Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah me hai:

1. Aurat ke liye apni Munchen, Raano aur Pindlion aur Bazu'on ke baal utarne me koi haraj nahi, aur ye mamnoo e tanammus (plucking) me se nahi hai"

Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah, 5/194, 195.

2. Mustaqil Committee se daryaft kiya gaya:

Islam me eyebrows ke darmiyan baal nochne ka hukm kya hai?

Committee ka jawab:

Inhe nochna jaiz hai; kyun ke ye eyebrow me shamil nahi hain."

Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah, 5/197.

3. Aur Committee se ye bhi sawal kiya gaya, "Aurat ke liye apne jism ke baal utarne ka hukm kiya hai?"

Committee ka jawab tha:

Sar aur eyebrows ke balon ke alawah aurat ke liye baal utarne jaiz hain,  Eyebrow aur sar ke baal bilkul utarne jaiz nahi aur na hi eyebrows ke kuch baal mundwane jaiz hain.

Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah, 5/194.

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Approaching Your Wife

“Women also have desires, emotional and physical. It is not immoral of her to ask for intimacy, it is only her innate nature.”
Introduction: Realize that women also have sexual desires. Although their main desire is emotional, they also have that sexual urge. Don’t ignore this as it could cause her harm. She is not immoral if she asks you for intimacy. Nor is she immoral if its continuous, it just means she has a strong urge for it, and this is the way she is. One of the purposes of marriage is to save ourselves from fitnah. And if you are not responding to her call, then this could cause her major problems. Indeed it could be that by you continuously refusing her call, not only would you damage her, but you could cause her to think of doing the haraam.  So, due to the “boil up” of desire within her, she could start to think about haraam acts. If she has this huge build up of desire which has no halaal avenue, then, when a good looking guy walks past her on the streets or elsewhere, she may start to think of haraam things. And indeed the Shaytaan will use her sexual frustration and exploit it in any possible way. O husbands, realise that by you continuously refusing her call, you could damage her chastity. How sad that she dies of thirst while water was available to her! Just because the Angels do not curse you for not responding to her call to bed, it does not mean you can take the matter lightly. If you want her to respond to your call, then lead by example and respond to her call.

Also, If you expect her to give up what she is doing and come to you for intimacy, then know that her mind will not be on the act, and her sole intention is just to quickly get the act over and done with and then rush back to her chores, which will now take even longer due to her having to do ghusl. And this may cause stress to her, and you! So instead of this downhill slope which has many negative knock-on effects, take into consideration that she may be busy or not in the mood for intimacy.

I will give advice about intimacy in three phases; before intimacy, during intimacy and after intimacy.

Before Intimacy: Know that it is from good manners to dress up for your wife. Ibn Abbaas said: “I love to beautify myself for the wife in the same way that I love for her to beautify herself for me because Allaah said, ‘And they have rights similar to those over them according to what is reasonable.’ [2:228].” [Tafseer Ibn Katheer]

It is a shame how some brothers desire their wives to be in perfect shape and to always look good yet show no concern to their wife’s physical desires. If your wife sees that you are taking care to look after yourself and look appealing to her, then this will naturally make her do the same. Is it logical that you wish your wife to be slim and in shape while you are out of shape and unhealthy?

And is it logical that you wish for your wife to have the “ideal” body shape that you like while you ignore her request (hints) of muscular shoulders and muscular thighs? Realize that women too need to be turned on by your body. You may be fit and have a strong endurance, but you might have a marathon runner’s figure as appose to the sprinter that she adores.

You desire to be intimate with your wife and expect her to always be ready for you, yet you are never in good looking shape for her? No woman would like to be intimate with a man who has his hair unkempt, whose breath smells like fish, and who she never gets to see wearing decent, gentlemen’s clothes in the house besides his sluggish and lazy looking pyjama pant or izzar. Why is it that when you go out for work, or for an interview or even to spend time with the brothers, you dress well, apply attar and do what you can to look good, yet when you’re at home with your wife, you take none of this into consideration?! Dress up for your wife and make her be attracted to you both emotionally and physically. If you wish for your wife to be toned and in perfect shape then know that she also likes the same from you. Its a shame how some men cannot see the logic in this. Women also have sexual desires, and at times it could be stronger than one thinks. Dress well for her, comb your hair, and be physically attractive for her as you would expect her to be for you.

Dress like a gentleman, wear the clothes she would like to see you to wear (ask for her opinion when you shop), comb your hair the way she likes it, keep your beard tidy, shave you hair in unwanted areas regularly, brush your teeth often and keep your breath fresh throughout the day especially when you plan on approaching her, be a charmer! No woman likes to be intimate with a man who has not made the effort to look good, especially with so much unwanted hair in areas which should be kept clean. How can you expect your wife to enjoy it when it is in an ugly/unhygienic state?

During Intimacy: During intimacy she may like a specific way or a specific approach. Take this into consideration. Allow her to investigate and explore other methods, and don’t force your way upon her all the time. If she asks for intimacy, allow her to approach you and enjoy you in the manner she likes. Even if her way is not as enjoyable to you, do not speak against it showing your dislike for it. Leave her be and let her enjoy it the way she likes. Let her be in the zone and allow her to enjoy it the way she likes. When she is enjoying it, rest assured you will be having a good time!

Intimacy is not just about you fulfilling your desire, it’s also about her.

Also, don’t force anything upon her which she is not comfortable with. She is a fragile vessel, so treat her with kindness and softness even in these delicate areas/topics. Men translate intimacy as sexual pleasure and women translate it as an emotional connection and sexual pleasure.

Do not shy away from reading about intimacy and ways to arouse her, there are plenty of books on the shelves that do not include haraam pictures. You can always ask your wife to scan through and get one for you. Of course, you would have to read and filter the information according to the Qur’an and Sunnah and not try out anything that is prohibited. Or even better, ask her! Ask her how she likes it and what approach she enjoys the most. Ask her what she enjoys and what arouses her, and use such charming methods when approaching her.

And lastly, don’t pounce on her like a bull. Find out ways to create that romantic atmosphere. Don’t just pounce on her and fulfil your desire in an impatient way without first arousing her desire. Send the messenger, and the messenger is a kiss. Get her excited for it as well before you do the specific act. One way this is done by being romantic with her. A gentle stroke, sweet words, a kiss, a soft cuddle, gently rubbing your nose against hers while holding her in your arms, or even brushing her hair to one side to give her a soft kiss on her neck. Use techniques to arouse her desires and get her in the mood. Remember that women are emotional beings, so arouse her desire by sweet and affectionate words. By getting her in the mood for intimacy, she will enjoy it much more but if you just pounce on her, this may break her.

After Intimacy: After intimacy, don’t leave straight away once you have finished (especially if she initiated the act), allow her to finish and fully let out her lust and desires. It would be great if you could hold it a little longer as women usually take more time to finish off. Just as you would not like her to leave you during the act, don’t leave her. Just because you have ejaculated and finished that does not mean she has finished. It is important that you practice holding it in at least until you know she is about to reach climax. There are a few methods which one can use, like concentrating on things unrelated to intimacy, such techniques help in preventing a quick ejaculation. Know that women also have sexual desires, and some women have a stronger sexual desire than others. She is not an object of desire who you go to just to fulfil your desires and whom you leave once you are done. She is a woman with feelings and desires just like you, so do not make her feel like a bowl you go to empty yourself in. It is important that you allow her to finish and be fully satisfied before leaving.

Gentleness Not Cruelty: Many men make the mistake of being cruel with their wives on the first night. Just because it is not forbidden to be intimate on the first night, it does not mean you force yourself upon her. Anger generates within her and she could have some hatred for you due to this forced act.

Yes, there may be some who would enjoy it and desire it on the first night, but I am referring to those who force their wives to be intimate and do not use a soft approach during the act. If she is not comfortable with it, leave it until she is. In the mean time, try to arouse her with sweet words, hinting with the eyes, or a cheeky smile and by making her feel desired. Sooner or later, she will be ready.

Never force her to do anything she does not wish to, as this may cause her to have some hatred towards you. Forcing a woman to be intimate with you can cause her much emotional damage. There will be times when she is not in the mood for intimacy, whether this be due to her health, being heavily pregnant, not in the mood or busy schedule. Although she has to respond to your call even when busy, realise that you forcing her is never good.

Another cruel act some men do is beating their wives during the day and having intimacy with them during the night. Even if some men may not do this, they do something very similar which is having intimacy with her while being angry with her, or just after an heated argument. Indeed having intimacy with her during such scenarios is similar to forcing her, as she may be scared to say no, and a woman being intimate with someone who she fears is a scary thing for any woman.

The best of you are those who are best to their wives, so fear Allaah as to how you treat her. Intimacy is a very sensitive area so be gentle with her and never force yourself on her nor cause her pain during the act. This pain could be emotional as well as physical. And no descriptions or details are needed to explain what a man does which causes her physical pain, its obvious. So be gentle with her. The most evil of characteristics is when a man combines between both; causing her emotional pain (forcing himself on her, especially during times of anger or after a heated debate) and causing her physical pain (not being gently while doing the act).
Although she is your wife, remember that she is someone’s daughter and someone’s sister. She grew up in a house and has now moved far from her parents love to live with you in a strange house. Be soft with her. And for the third time, never make her do something she does not wish to!
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Gurub E Aftab Se Pahle Haiz Ka Shuru Hona


 Sawal 

Agar Haiz/mahwari (periods) ghuroob e Aftab se pahle shuru hojaye, yahan tak ke ek lamha pahle bhi aajaye toh kya aurat ka roza batil hojayega aur use us din ki qaza karni padegi.?

 Jawab 

۩ Shaykh Ibn Uthaymeen kahte hai ki,

"Agar aurat ko Haiz/mahwari roze ki halat me shuru hoti hai, phir chahe ghuroorb e aaftaab se ek lamha pahle hi kyun na ho iska roza batil hogaya aur aurat ko iski qaza karni hogi."

Majaalis Shahr Ramadaan Pg : 39.

Haiz ki halat mei roze rakhna iske liye jayez nahi hai agar wo aisa karti hai tou iska roza sahih nahi hai.

۩ Ibn Qudaamah r.h ne kaha,

"Agar Haiza aurat roza rakhne ka irada karti hai aur khaane peene se ruk jaati hai agarche ye is baat se aagah hai ke ye haraam hai to wo gunehgaar hai aur ye ke roza ise kuch faida na dega."

Al-Mughni(4/397).

۩ Standing Committee (10/155) se sawal kiya gaya ek aurat ke talluq se jisne roza rakha aur jald hi guroob e aaftaab se pahle aur azaan se pehle iska haiz shuru hogaya tou kya iska roza sahih hai?

Unhone jawaab diya, "Agar uska haiz guroob e Aaftaab se pahle shuru hogaya to iska roza batil ho gaya aur use iski qaza karni hogi. Aur agar haiz guroob e Aaftaab ke baad aagaya to uska roza sahih hai aur use iski qaza nahi deni hogi."

Wallahu alam.

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Khula’ Ki Taareef Aur Iska Tarika


Biwi mua'wiza dee kar alahida ho to ise Khula kaha jata hai. Is tarah qhawind mua'wiza lekar apni biwi ko chorde chahe wo ye maher jo ki qhawind ne dia tha wo ho ya isse zyada aur ya fir kam ho.

Iski daleel Allah subhanahu wa ta'alaa ka farmaan hai:

Aur tumhare liye halal nahi ke tum ne jo kuch inhe dia hai is me se kuch wapis le loo magar ye ke wo dono isse khaufzada hoo ke wo Allah ta'ala ki hudood ko qa'im nahi rakh sakenge, to phir in par koi gunah aur jurm nahi ke wo iska fidya dee.

Surah Baqara, ayat-299.

Sunnat e Nabawi  me iski daleel Sabit bin Shimaas r.z. ki biwi ki hadees hai:

Sabir bin Shimaas r.z. ki biwi Nabi ﷺ ke paas aayi aur kahne lagi, "Aye Allah ke Rasool mai Sabit ibn Qays par koi dini ya aqhlaqi a'ib nahi lagaty, lekin mai Musalman hone ke baad koi kufr nahi karni chahti. To Nabi ne ise farmaya ke Kya tum inka Baagh wapis karogi? Kyuki Ye Baagh unhone ise maher me diya tha, to wo kehne lagy "Ji haan".
Toh Nabi ﷺ ne farmaya: Apna Baagh Qubool karlo aur ise chhordo.

Sahih al Bukhari, hadith- 5273.

Ulema e karaam ne is qisse se ye istenbaat kiya hai ke jab aurat apne qhawind ke sath rahne ki taqat na rakhe to Wali ul Amr aur Qaazi iske qhawind se khula talab kare balke ise khula ka hukm de.

KHULA KI SURAT YE HAI KE:

Khawind ke iwaz me kuch le ya fir wo kisi iwaz par muttafiq hojaye aur fir khawind apni biwi ko kahe ke mai ne tujhe chordiya ya qula kar liya is tarah ke dusre alfaaz kahe.

Aur talaq Khawind ka haq hai ye is waqt tak waqa'e nahi ho sakti jab tak wo talaq na dee, isliye ke Nabi ﷺ ka farmaan hai, "Talaq iska haq hai jo pindli ko pakadta hai",
(Ya'ani khawind).

Sunan ibn Majah, Hadith-2081.

Allama Albani r.h. ne Irwa’ al-Ghaleel me ise hasan qaraar dia hai,2041.

Is liye Ulema e karam ne ye kaha hai ke: Jise apni biwi ko talaq dene par zulm ke sath majboor kiya jaye aur isne talaq de di to iski ye talaq waq'aee nahi hogy, dekhe al-Mughni- 10/352.

Aur Aap ne jo ye zikr kia hai ke ba'az auqaat biwi hukumaty kawaneen ke mutabiq apne ap ko talaq de de, to iske baare me hum kahenge ke: Agar tu ye kisi aise sabab ki bina par hai jiski bina par talaq mubah hojaty hai, Masalan agar wo khawind ko na pasand karne lage aur iske sath zindagy na guzaar sake ya fir khawind ke fisq wa fujoor aur haram kaam karne ki jur'at karne ke bina par ise Deeni ai'tbaar se na pasand karne lage wagairah, To ise Talaq ka mutaleba karne me koi harj nahi.
Lekin aisi halat me wo khawind se khula karle aut iska diya hua maher wapis karde.

Aur agar wo talaq ka mutaleba kisi sabab ke bagair kare to aisa karna iske liye jayez nahi aur is halat me adaalat ka talaq ke mutalliq faisla sharayi nahi hoga balke aurat badasutoor is admi ki biwi hi rahegy.

To yaha par ek mushkil pesh aati hai ke Kanooni taur par to ye aurat mutliqa(divorcee) shumaar hogi aur id'dat guzarne ke baad aur kahi shadi karle gi lekin haqeeqat me biwi ko talaq hui hi nahi.

Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen r.h. ne is jaise masle me kuch is tarah kaha hai: "Ab hamare samne ek mushkil hai, iski zaujiyat aur asmath me rahte hue kahi aur shadi karna iske liye haram hai aur zahiri taur par adaalat ke hukm ke mutabiq ise talaq ho chuki hai aur jab iddat khatam hojaye to kahi aur shadi kar sakti hai.

To meri raaye ye hai ki is mushkil se nikalne ke liye zaroory hai ke ahl e khair aur islaah karne wale loog zaroor is masle me dakhal de taa'ke khawind aur biwi ke darmiyaan sulah ho sake, warna wo aurat apne khawind ko i'waz adaa karde ta'ake sharai taur par khula ho sake.

Liqa’ al-baab al-Maftooh by Shaykh Muhammad ibn ‘Uthaymeen, no. 54; 3/174.

Wallahu alam.

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Source:- Islamqa.info
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5 Jan 2018

Biwi Ko Tarjee Dee Jaye Ya Ke Walidah Ko ?


Ek shaqs ki walidah bhi hai aur biwi bhi to kya wo kharcha aur libaas aur dusri zaruriyaat wagaira me biwi ko walidah par tarje'e de sakta hai? Aur agar wo aisa kare to kya wo gunahgaar hoga?

ALHAMDULILLAH..

Agar wo walidah ki zaruriyaat puri karne walon me se hai aur wo walidah ki zaruriyaat ka khayal rakhta hai aur ise is ki kifayat ke liye deta hai to phir aisa kaam karne se wo gunahgaar nahi hoga.

Lekin afzal aur behtar ye hai ke wo walidah ke dil ko thees na phunchaye balke inhe khush rakhe aur inhe tarje'e de. Aur agar biwi ko tarje'e dena zarury ho to fir ye kaam Khufya (secret) tareeqe se kare jiska ilm walidah ko na ho aur walidah ke saath bhi husn e salook karta rahe.

Wallahu ta'ala a'alam

Fatawa Imam Nawawi r.h. , page:- 212.

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4 Jan 2018

Iddat Wali Aurat Ke Liye Apni Zarurat Ki Wajah Se Bazar Jana


Kya id’dat wali aurat ke liye apni zaroorat ki wajah se bazaar jana jayez hai?

Alhamdulillah..

Id'dat wali aurat ke liye apni zarooraton ki wajah se bazaar jana aur ilaaj ke liye hospital jana jayez hai, Nez padhne aur padhane ke liye jana bhi jayez hai. Kyun ke ye ahem zaroorate hai, haan albattah id'dat me zeb wa zeenat, khushbu aur sone chandi aur almaas wagairah ke zewraat ke istemal se ijtinaab karna zaroori hai. Id'dat me aurat ko 5 (panch) baton ki pabandi karna lazim hai:

۝1. Agar mumkin ho to isi ghar me rahe jis me sukunat ke dauraan shohar ka inteqaal hua ho.

۝2. Khubsurat libaas ke istemal se ijtenab kare.

۝3.  Khushbu ke istemal se ijtenab kare, haan albattah ghusl haiz se taharat ke waqt baqhoor wagairah istemal kar sakty hai.

۝4. Soone chandi aur almaas wagairah ke zewraat bhi istemal na kare.

۝5. Surma aur mehendi wagairah bhi istemal na kare kyunke Nabi ﷺ se sabit hai ke Aap ﷺ ne in tamaam baaton se mana farmaya hai.

Source: Fatawa Islamia [Shaykh 'Abdul-'Aziz bin 'Abdullah bin Baz, Shaykh Muhammad bin Salih Al-'Uthaimin & Shaykh 'Abdullah bin 'Abdur-Rahman Al-JibreenAlong with: The Permanent Committee and the decisions of the Fiqh Council.] Jild 3, Safa-352.
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